Counseling

Dr. Shaler is clear and wants you to be, too.

"Only come to work with me if you really want your life, relationships and business to work AND are willing to do what it takes to make that so. Let's not waste time or money! Change and grow....or go!"

Everyone is welcome to work with Dr. Shaler. Her particular specialty is working with influencers, people who lead, inspire, educate and help others embrace life fully and achieve success on their own terms.

As a leader, speaker, therapist, minister or healer, you know you are responsible for living in alignment with your values, vision, purpose and beliefs, demonstrating who you are and what you teach in every moment.

Dr. Rhoberta Shaler helps those in professions she herself practices come to the clarity, insight and wisdom necessary for bringing their gifts to the life of the world successfully.

THOUGHTS ON COUNSELING....

Sometimes we tend to think of counseling as a last resort, the place we go that shows the problem is bigger than our skill set and that somehow we have failed.

I have a different view.

I think wise people, ones who know what they want and are focused on the best life, relationships and business success possible, naturally get help the moment they need it. Counseling is that kind of help.

I am a Life Mechanic.

Years ago, I was in the habit of going to a particular watering hole each Friday after work to meet with colleagues and friends. Although I'm allergic to alcohol, it was a wonderful community of professionals who enjoyed the Friday late afternoon rituals of gathering, talking and preparing for the weekend.

New people would drift through and stop to chat. Of course, one of the first questions a man would ask me is

"What do you do?" (It was after the 'What is your sign?" era...lol)

I quickly learned that mentioning my work at that time as a therapist caused most to put their hands over their faces and say,

"Don't read me. Don't figure me out!" in mock horror.

So, I learned to have conversations like this, which might help you understand my stance on counseling and therapy:

"What do you do when your car breaks down?"

"I take it to the shop."

"Why do you take it to the shop?"
mechanic working on a car

"Because I don't know how to fix it myself. The guys there, that's all they do, so they are the experts and I don't have to be."

"So, you know the value of a mechanic."

"Yes,"

"Great, then. The answer to "What do I do?" is that I am a life mechanic!"

This seemed quite acceptable as well as logical. I think it is true for everyone. And, we all know that it is better to take our cars to the shop at the first sign of a clunk or rattle than to wait until we're completely unable to move in adangerous part of town late at night!

Counseling is available in my office, in your office or on the telephone. Call the Optimize Center for further information and to make an appointment.

I'll be waiting for you with all the tools needed to keep you in great shape, running like a top.

Dr. Rhoberta Shaler
The Optimize Center
Escondido, CA 92025

760.747.8686

Rhoberta Shaler, PhD

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Counseling:

"professional guidance of the individual by utilizing psychological methods" (Webster's)

"guidance: something that provides direction or advice as to a decision or course of action"
(WordNetWeb, Princeton)

If it would be helpful to you to solve an issue within yourself, something that is keeping you from the happiness, success and relationships that you want, counseling is an excellent option.

If your primary relationship is out of balance, in trouble, or in danger of collapsing, and you want to steer the wisest course for all concerned, counseling is an excellent option.

If you want to solve an issue in your partnership or on your team effectively, and craft an agreement that will move you in a better direction, on we offer professional mediation services, training and coaching.